EP17.《分手心理学》：新伤口和旧伤痛的治愈指南

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看到今天这本《分手心理学》时，我还没有分手。但书中清晰的五个阶段，具体的应对工具、步骤，都给了我很大的抚慰，让我更有勇气去面对一段痛苦关系的真相。在后来的分手时，也给了我更大的信心，一点点把自己从破碎的状态再拼回来。 我觉得大多数人，而不仅限于刚分手的人，都可以从这本书中获益。在四层大脑的那一期，我们讨论过，过去的旧伤痛是如何改造了我们的警报系统，让我们变得不那么容易平静和快乐。分手，是最常见的旧伤痛，哪怕它已经过去了很久。按照这本书的五步，重新梳理之前的感情经历，重新认识亲密关系，我们才能真正放下，让未来的路更轻松。 本期内容： 01:42 为什么这本书适合所有人 06:05 分手五部曲，以及阶段性看待伤痛的好处 09:05 第1步：从崩溃中爬起来 14:14 为什么分手后我们想要伤害自己 25:51 如何应对分手后的愤怒 30:01 如何应对感情「失败」带来的羞耻感 40:08 如何应对怨恨和悔恨 47:47 我们应该怎么安慰分手的朋友 57:55 身心是相互影响的，让身体先走出来 1:10:39 第2步：先要继续生活，如何应对低迷状态 1:18:36 分手后害怕独处，有单身压力怎么办？ 1:33:24 总忍不住关注前任和前任的现任怎么办？ 1:40:03 想要复合，理智吗？应该如何判断？ 1:35:30 一直放不下怎么办？ 2:05:00 第3步：寻找真相。TA爱过我吗？为什么要离开？ 2:21:03 TA为什么要出轨？ 2:29:05 远离这几类人 2:33:45 第4步：看见受伤的自己，重建自己 2:39:11 如何创建自己的心理支持系统？ 2:43:53 第5步：重新认识亲密关系，重新出发 相关阅读： 读书笔记 ｜ 爱并没有消失，只是换一个角度重新出发

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